'I will absolutely not be getting rid of my cat': Person Refuses to Abandon Their Cat after Their Pregnant Roommate’s Mom Demands They Prioritize People over Pets

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Mariel Ruvinsky • Writer and Editor
Oct 31, 2024 10:00 AM EDT

As cat owners who would like to have kids one day, we spend our times wondering sometimes… what will we do if our cats do not accept our babies? And yes, logically, we know that it's usually fine. Usually, cats take babies under their wings - or paws - without any issue. It's a brand new, fresh human to train to be the best servant ever. Cats love babies. For that reason and others. Cats and babies bond, if not right away, then over time. And we just need to be there to supervise and make sure that the transition happens as smoothly as possible. 

Still, that tinge of concern hangs on in the backs of our minds. If it happened, what would we do? What would be the right thing? That's still a far-away decision for us, of course. The decision in this story though… was not a difficult one in the slightest.

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    "I will absolutely not be getting rid of my cat."
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    r/AmltheA h le • 8 days ago This-Guidance-9105 AITA for not getting rid of my cats for my pregnant best friend Not the
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    Oh, we were so conflicted when we first came across this caption. Yes, cats are our babies, but our babies are also our babies. We were worried, not going to lie. For everyone involved. But now that we have read through the whole thing, we can safely say that the only person we're mad at in this whole story is neither the OP nor the best friend.

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    Throwaway account. I 22F have lived. alone since the beginning of this year in a 2b 2bath condo. I have one cat who is my pet, but I also volunteer with a local cat rescue organization.
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    It's the mom. To think that both the cat owner and the pregnant best friend came to an arrangement that worked for both of them just fine, only for the mother of the best friend, who is obviously overinvolved in her life, to come in and try to cause tension. No. Just no. 

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    It's fairly often that I temporarily foster cats/kittens anywhere from just 1 night-2 weeks at most, until we clear them to be placed in our shelter, or with another foster, or they are adopted. Usually I take in 1 foster at a time, but at times it's 2 if they're siblings, bonded, etc.
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    Recently this summer, my best friend 'Kristy' 23F moved in with me because she was on very bad/hostile terms with her mom and stepdad who she lived with, and it was safer for her to move out.
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    I of course offered her to stay with me, and shes been in the spare bedroom since. However last month, Kristy found out she's pregnant from her bf. They have a plan to get their own place asap she says, but I truly don't mind if she stays here as long as she needs.
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    Given that she's pregnant, when she told her mom last week, her mom wanted to come over and talk things over. So she came here on Thursday and they talked privately for about 2 hours.
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    When they came out it seemed like it was a good chat and they were more relaxed. But, her mom kinda turned her attention towards me and said "if Kristy's going to be living here, you need to do something about the cats." I asked what she meant, and she mentioned toxoplasmosis, the litter boxes, number of cats here, etc. and started getting an attitude towards me and said "you guys should've thought of this already."
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    I let her know we did actually; and there's an extremely low to no risk of toxoplasmosis. I only have one cat (my own) in the main house, who doesn't go into Kristy's room. Kristy also has 0 obligations or responsibilities for my cats, I let her know that the minute she moved in.
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    All litter boxes are cleaned minimum twice daily, and aren't even anywhere near Kristy. My cats litter box is kept in the garage (she has a cat door) and any foster cats I have are kept in my master bathroom. It's a large bathroom and adapted to be safe for
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    a temporary foster. The only interaction Kristy has is if she happens to be in the living room/hallway/kitchen with my cat at the same time, so contact is extremely limited. I also want to add, all cats I foster are up to date with vaccines, spayed/neutered, and exclusively indoor cats only.
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    After explaining all this to Kristy's mom, I told her that at most I would be willing to possibly limit the fosters | bring in, but I will absolutely not be getting rid of my cat. She told me "well yours is the biggest risk here."
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    ALSO she tried to suggest that I should stop volunteering with cats altogether until Kristy moved out or until the baby is born. Kristy tried interrupting her mom to calm down because she kept going on about how I'm being selfish, I'm not realizing that she's carrying another life now, not considering the risks, etc. but given their relationship, she was very on edge with her mom which I understand.
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    I love my best friend, but I will not be getting rid of my pet in my own home that was here before she was. I'm willing to adapt and limit fosters, but I genuinely do not think I'm risking anyone's health here and don't want to stop volunteering. AITA?
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    sickofdriving007 • 8d ago • Professor Emeritass [74] NTA. As long as she's not scooping the litter boxes she should be fine. If her mom is so concerned maybe she should step up and be a better parent to her daughter so she can live with her. 10K ○ Reply
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    • This-Guidance-9105 OP 8d ago • Ty. Kristy and I came to the agreement from the get-go that she doesn't need to do anything with the cats whatsoever, as soon as she moved in. So she's as far from the litter boxes as possible because from what I understand that's where one of the most likely risks of toxoplasmosis actually comes from. 3.6K ○ Reply
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    FuzzyMom2005 • 8d ago .• Commander in Cheeks [236] NTA. You don't want to get rid of the cats. Kristy doesn't want you to get rid of the cats. This is a non-issue. If Kristy has such a toxic relationship with her mom, her mom should not be coming to your house. Let Kristy go to hers if she can't go NC. 439 > Reply ...
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    • This-Guidance-9105 OP 8d ago · The thing I'm starting to wonder about though is if Kristy does have a problem with the cats. Her mom had no way of knowing about the fosters without Kristy telling her. I realize this could've just come up in casual conversation, there may not have been any thought when she told her mom. But yeah, I'm going to plan a conversation with her that her mom isn't welcome here if that's how she's going to act and talk to me in my own home 239 > Reply
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    [deleted] •8d ago NTA. Plenty of pregnant women live with cats and are just fine. I suspect Kristy's mom is doing this to pressure her to move back home, where she can then have more control over her daughter. 943 ○ Reply
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    • This-Guidance-9105 OP 8d ago Honestly that makes a lot of sense. She is extremely controlling and I think I've been so taken back by how she came at me that I didn't even look at the bigger picture and realize shes likely trying to get her to move back home 498 ○ Reply
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    TheSannens • 8d ago NTA, your house, your cat. Her baby is not your responsibility AND as long as she stays away from the litter box she's fine. Sincerely, A pregnant woman whose indoor cat is currently sleeping on her lap 1.9K ○ Reply ...
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    • This-Guidance-9105 OP 8d ago This is the absolute best reply, thank you. Wishing you a wonderful pregnancy, and pls pet your cat for me. 720 ○ Reply
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